Sunday, June 29, 2014

Touching Stories

15/365 Days of Happiness : Touching Stories

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Stories are powerful. 

Father Jun Sescon of Sto. NiƱo de Paz Community-Greenbelt Chapel started his homily with a story of two altar boys who were asked to leave the mass because of they were fighting. These boys eventually became Popes.

That story set the tone for the homily about One Love that bound Saint Peter and Saint Paul who despite their differences were able to become the pillars of the Church. It was a moving homily, a reminder for everyone to look beyond differences and see Christ in each other.

Then he ended the homily with another powerful story: the story of Pope Francis stopping his motorcade to bless disabled girl. It made me cry.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e64S4oTMuZs





Saturday, June 28, 2014

Coffee Time

14/ 365 Days of Happiness : Coffee Time with Nanay

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Coffee time with Nanay is an everyday ritual. She would wait for me to wake up each day. This could be as early as 11am or as late as 3pm. We would sit in front of TV, watch anything, talk about anything, or not talk at all but savor the moment of togetherness.  



Be Happy

13/365 Days of Happiness

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Happiness is a choice. Choose to be happy.


Today's reason to be happy: 


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Great site to generate happiness quotes!


Friday, June 27, 2014

Thank God There's Internet

12/365 Days of Happiness: Working From Home

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It's officially rainy season. Good news. Lower electricity bills. Bad news. Floods!



A day like this could make you rant about taxes, about you paying them, and government officials squandering them, pretty ruthlessly. But this blog is my 365 days of happiness, so let me see what happiness could this scenario could bring?

Hey, there's internet. It makes you connected. In times like these, you can ask your boss if you could work from home. She agreed and voila! you can work from home. I did.






Thursday, June 26, 2014

Why I Don't Hate My Scars Anymore

11/365 Days of Happiness: Scars are Tattoos with Better Stories
I used to hate my scars. I usually don’t wear skirts at work so no one would see them. I sometimes tease my Nanay that she does not love me, she allowed me to get scarred when I was young.

But nowadays, I wear skirts more often. I don't hate my scars anymore. I don't love them either, but I love the memories they bring. Scars are tattoos but with better stories. My scars bring happy memories of my childhood.



My most unforgettable scars are the ones I have on my knees. I got them when I was 9 or 10. I was playing with my cousins. We were using the baggage compartment of the tricycle as monkey bars. (Hey, it's made of metal and we had great imagination).

I don't have a picture of that but I have a recreation below, so you would imagine how fun it was.




It was fun until the tricycle sped away with me still hanging on the metal bars. I can't blame the poor driver. He was just delivering bread to our sari-sari store. How could he have known that there was a reckless little girl hanging on the metal bars? I was scared to let go, I was afraid my face would hit the asphalted road. Good thing there was a good neighbor who saw me and shouted at the driver to stop.

My sangko attended to my skinned knees. It may be out of love or out of responsibility, but he did take care of me. Every day, he would wash my wounds with boiled guava leaves. Ten to twelve- year old Filipino boys would know where else the guava leaves are used for. It was effective. For my knees, I know they were. I don't remember if I thanked my brother for that. If not, "Salamat, Sangko!" (I don't even call him that anymore. My three older brothers are now all called Kuya.)

That's one childhood game I won't ever forget. It was painful but it didn't stop me from playing on monkey bars. But of course, no more of the tricycle bars but plenty of swinging under the double deck bed.

Like this:



Funny now that I remember my childhood, I kind of miss the scars from trying to get up the coconut tree and sliding down. It was fun, too; with minor abrasions. Like the ones I get when I have to slide down from the papaya tree from our second floor window. Less painful, but a bit irritating are the scratches from rice stalks. We accompany our grandmother in rice fields after harvest time. We would gather the grains left by the harvester. Actually, she did most of the gathering, while we, the children play in the haystack for hours. A little discomfort when we sleep at night but so worth it. That was fun, fun, fun!

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Memories of Pancit

10/365 Days of Happiness : Pancit Guisado and Max’s Caramel Bars

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Pancit guisado is my favorite noodle dish. It’s something I would never get tired of eating. Be it home-cooked or bought from a nearby carinderia.

Pancit bihon or pancit canton, or a combination, sometimes simply called pancit in the Philippines, is the national handa in birthday parties, supposedly for long life, but it is also served in other occasions.

Whenever we have pancit at home, we try to bring some in the office and share it with colleagues. Today, even without an occasion, we asked Leng, our colleague, to bring pancit. Her mother, Manang Dalia cooks delicious pancit.

We served the pancit and slices of bread in paper plates. The image reminded us of the many birthday parites we attended when we were young. Pancit, slice of bread and orange juice (made from concentrated Sunkist orange juice). Pancit really brought back some fond memories of our childhood.

When I got home, things got better. I had a box of Max’s caramel bars! My mother had her check-up and they had lunch at Max’s. How sweet mother could get? I love caramel bars! 

Monday, June 23, 2014

Rainy Monday

9/365 Days of Happiness : Rainy Monday

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What would you do on a rainy Monday aside from singing Rainy Days and Mondays?


It’s Monday morning and the gentle patter of drizzle against the windowsill is a lullaby seducing me to sleep. Good thing today is a rest day.


Having worked overtime last week, I was beginning to feel signs of sleep deficit; so I took Monday off and spent the day sleeping hoping to pay off some sleep debt. 

If you are one of those who feel getting by on less than five hours of sleep is a badge of honor, think again. You'll understand why you need sleep when you see what happens when you do not get enough.

When you do not have sufficient sleep, you may become:

1.    Cranky - You're overly emotional.  Sleep deficit can make you irritable and short-tempered in the morning.

2.    Unfocused and Forgetful - This is unproductive whether you are at work or at home. This could also lead to poor judgment.

3.    Sluggish and Clumsy - You wake up groggy, dying for a nap or a cup of coffee. If you have not been sleeping well, you will find it difficult to perform your activities as lack of sleep causes impairment of abilities making us clumsy or uncoordinated.

4.    Unhealthy - Insufficient sleep is a risk factor for obesity. Ever noticed being hungry all the time when you lack sleep? Chronic insufficient sleep increases hunger and appetite.

If you feel any of these signs, consider taking a day off and repay some of those sleep debt.

Sunday, June 22, 2014

What Does Viber and Kare- kare Have in Common?

8/365 Days of Happiness: Getting Connected

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Viber


I woke up to the sound of my phone ringing. It's a Viber call from Ate Sann, my sister who now lives in Japan. My sister gets to call us (me and my family) more often now, thanks to Viber.


It's my sister who suggested I get this app. She started using the app while she and her classmates were planning their class reunion last year. Facebook and Viber were their most common means of communication. 

Viber is way better than Skype and Facebook video. It's our new favorite app. 

When my sister was just starting her family in Japan, we communicated mostly through snail mails. Prohibitive phone calls are for real emergencies. Now, we can talk about anything for an hour without worrying about the cost. :)


Kare- kare

I had kare-kare for lunch. Yum! 
Digs, my brother,  sometimes cooks for his family on weekends. And it's always something special. 

What made it more special is that he never forgets to send us some.

Kare-kare is a family favorite. My mother cooks it on special occasions so this special dish brings many special memories.

So what does Viber and kare-kare have in common? Today, both of them got our family connected. And it will keep on doing so, until Viber gets replaced by a new and better technology. Kare-kare will always stay, I bet!

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Three on a Weekend


7/365 Days of Happiness : Three Reasons to Be Happy

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It's a great weekend. The exercise of looking for a reason to be happy is becoming a healthy habit. 

Of so many things that made me happy, here's today's Top 3:

1. Gratitude 365
I found this awesome app where I can keep notes of things I am grateful each day. It is such a handy journal.












2. Snack Date with Cousins.

The snack was great but the talk was better. 

What started in Wingman as discussions on presentations and business models ended five hours later  in Chef Tatung with bigger plans in Pharma Consultancy, pursuing MBA, and traveling. :)





3. Hugs and Kisses from the Kids - AWESOME.

Saving the BEST for last. 

As if the day's happiness was not enough, I came home to five amazing kids. 

I kissed Cholo first because he does not visit us often. [Thanks, to his dad, my nephew, Bryan and Adonna, Bryan's wife,  for bringing him and letting him spend time with the family. He will grow up knowing his roots].

That kiss and big hug snowballed. The other four kids fell in line and asked to be kissed and hugged. How wonderful could that be. Four kids eagerly asking to be kissed and hugged! 

So I kissed and hugged Ayhen, a granddaughter from a niece. Then, my three musketeers, my regular weekend visitors, MJ, Kayla and Marfie.

That definitely made my day - an icing to the cake!



[The background for the photo is from Dreamstime Free Images.]







Gratefulness

6/365 Days of Happiness: When Letting Go of Something so Little Means A Lot

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Sampaguita is the Philippine national flower, but whenever I see sampaguita garland I associate it with gratefulness rather than nationalism.


I feel safer in a cab when I see sampaguita garland hanging in front mirror. It somehow assures me that the driver is God-fearing and that garland is an expression of his faith. Most Catholic Filipinos would understand this association.  Sampaguita garlands are sold in front of churches and people buy them and offer them to statues or images on their altar at home. 

That's what I imagine this water vendor I observed one Friday would do when he gets home. 

It was Friday afternoon. Traffic was heavy as expected. I already had good one-hour nap but I was still in Magallanes.  I was thinking of transferring to MRT to get to work faster but seeing that the queue to MRT snaked around the Alpha South building somewhat discouraged me so I stayed in the bus and for the lack of things to do while our bus crawled in traffic-jammed EDSA, I just went on to observe the goings on. 

The one that caught my attention was this water vendor that got on our bus in Ayala. It looked like his day was done. His pail and Styrofoam box (used for carrying bottled water) were both empty. He was going home. 

In a smaller street after Ayala, there was a sampaguita vendor. The water vendor alighted from the bus, leaving his pail and Styrofoam box in the bus, went ahead to buy sampaguita garlands. Unexpectedly, traffic got better and the driver just sped away. The bus conductor looked worried as she checked on the water vendor, who was running as fast as he could so he could catch up. Fortunately, he did.

What made me appreciate this moment is that this man alighted from the bus to buy those garlands. He could be earning so little but he was willing to let go a portion of it so there’s something he could offer at the altar – a sign of his gratitude. It’s a little portion, but it meant a lot.

Friday, June 20, 2014

I Was Alice; This is What I Saw When I Stood in Front of the Looking Glass

5/365 Days of Happiness : Reflections


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I received an SMS from a friend. There seemed to be some urgency in the tone. It was  a message you would like to attend to immediately. So I did, as soon as I could;  and I am glad I did. 

We talked. She 's sweet, she's fierce, she's funny.  One moment explaining, the next, crying, then laughing. Oh, she needed someone to talk to and I was there to listen.

But this is not her story. In the midst of all her woes and sobs, I saw myself. I have been there before. The way I saw things then was the way she was seeing them.  

For a while, I was Alice. And this is what I saw when I stood in front of the looking glass. Slowly, the pieces all came together. What had changed?

Letting go of pain and anger had cleared my head of clouds of anger, pain, and sorrow.

I am seeing things now from different perspectives.


“Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly hold it back.”  Proverbs 29:11


Anger is a choice. When you get angry, you choose to get angry. Nobody is forcing you to get angry and nobody can make you mad without your permission either.

At different points in our lives, we dealt with people who made us mad, people who disappointed us, people who insisted their way, and people who would not listen.

How do we deal with difficult people? demanding people? disappointing people?

Be tactful. The way you say something determines the way it’s received. If you say something offensively, it’s going to be received defensively. Even if you are right, if you’re rude about it, people are not going to care what you have to say. They’re just going to get defensive.

Be pleasant. The more pleasant you are, the more persuasive you can be.

Be understanding. They may be stressed. They may be sick. They may have a family issue. We do not know what their battles and burdens are.

Be at peace. Pray. You may be fuming mad, yet the other parties might not even have the slightest idea. Pray for yourself and for them, and for world peace. Sleep soundly.

Thursday, June 19, 2014

Happy Birthday Bruno

4/365 Days of Happiness: Happy Birthday Bruno

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Happy birthday to the world’s most adorable two-year-old cutie pie!



Two years ago, you came to our lives. You, cute little thing. From then on you were the star of the show! 
Since your first birthday, your experience and age has doubled, but so has your cuteness. Happy birthday little one. You are officially the Caridad baby.

You have crawled into our lives to give us happiness, joy and wonder. With you, the dreariest of days brighten up. Who can resist you and your adorable facial expression? One look and you win hands down. There's nothing more awesome than your version of Puss in the Boots look and charming woof.

You are the naughtiest two year old I have ever seen but no one punishes you because you are the cutest two year old there has ever been, but Chichi might if you keep on chewing on her notes. On your birthday, I wish that you never grow up and keep harassing the twins with your mischievous best.

We hope you have love it here, being a part of the family and tolerating our idiosyncrasies (we tolerate yours, too.) We cherish each moment of having you. Happy Birthday to the cutest baby in the whole world, Brunski!









Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Rain, Rain, Go this Way?


3/365 Days of Happiness : Raindrops keep fallin' on my head...

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Rainy days remind me of my childhood. Those were the days when we were allowed to run on streets shirtless, getting wet playing in the rain, drenched of the water coming out of the gutters, running in the muddy waters and jumping in puddles. We would play in the rain for hours until our palms and fingers were cold, white and wrinkled. 

I remember my lola would encourage us to bathe in the rain (the rain was supposed to heal prickly heat), but nowadays, children are no longer allowed to that for health reasons.  The rain is polluted and the water coming out of the gutters is no longer safe.

Well, those were the days. We were young, and happy and free!

Raindrops keep fallin' on my head...
....

But there's one thing I know the blues they send to meet me won't defeat me 

It won't be long till happiness steps up to greet me...
....

Cryin's not for me 'causeI'm never gonna stop the rain by complainin'Because I'm free, nothin's worryin' me

http://www.songlyrics.com/b-j-thomas/raindrops-keep-falling-on-my-head-lyrics/#m1v1hpcRk7vemeJz.99

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Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Her Smile, Priceless

On a tricycle ride on my way to work, I was with a mother with a 2 or 3-year old girl. The mother took the seat beside me and the little girl sat on the ‘baby seat’. The little girl stepped on my toes, one of which was swollen (the reason is another story). Since, I decided to start my 365 days of happiness; I just moved my toes away from her little foot and looked for a reason to be happy in this scenario.

As we got near the school zone, the tricycle had to slow down several times as it neared the humps. Each time it slowed down, the little girl’s head bumped a bit in the vehicle’s front panel. Her mother was trying to convince her to sit in her lap instead (I assumed, so she won’t get hurt), but the kid stayed.

My profound interpretation of this simple incident happening before my eyes:
The child: "I am independent and proud of this accomplishment. Look, Mom. I bumped my head a bit but I held on. I did not fall. I am happy.”
The mother: “I wish I could hold you in my arms to keep you safe from harm.”
Me: “This child must be real proud. Her smile, priceless! Just like a kid riding a bike and saying: ‘Look, Ma, no hands!’”

My reason to be happy: the little girl has reminded me of the importance of setting expectations, which could also be true in other aspects of life, like work and relationships and fun. Her mom could have said, “you can sit there but you could get hurt.” instead of trying her very best to convince her child to sit on her lap

Kids have to given that choice, a choice to be independent, and the freedom to explore and learn. However, we should set expectations that they could get hurt in their choices. Sometimes, parents would rather keep their children safe, waiting for a perfect time to let them go, but the perfect time does not come. In an effort to protect them, we sometimes deny them the freedom to learn, even from their mistakes.

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Sunday, June 15, 2014

Thank God for the Sundays

1/365 Days of Happiness : Thanks for the Sundays.

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Three reasons to be happy because it is Sunday.

Sunday is  Yuki and Me Time. It's a always good to start the week connected to the real source of joy - God. I like attending mass with Yuki. It reminds me of the days when she was just still in grade school and she would always ask me to go with her in Children's mass.

Sunday is also pamper day. Happy feet, wiggling, feeling free!

And since  Nanay can't go with us, she always gets pasalubong - croissants! Oh what a joy to see how happy she can become with such simple pasalubong.




365 Days of Happiness

I have been seeing a lot of 100 days of happiness in Facebook and this sounds like a good idea.
Looking for a reason to be happy each day makes you appreciate even  the little things in life that makes you happy. Even in most depressing times, finding that little source of joy can make your day.

So I had been waiting for that magic moment to start my 100 days of happiness blog.

Then, I realized, why wait for the perfect moment?  The goal of this blog is to find joy - grand, great and simple ones. Any day is a a good day to start. Each day will always bring something that can make you smile, or make you laugh, or make you happy.

So here I am, looking back at what transpired this day, and finally, starting my 100 days of happiness. Oh, and again, why settle for 100 when you can have 365 days of happiness?

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